So this commenter took the extreme action of completely removing themselves from social media. I don’t necessarily think that’s necessary for everyone, although there could definitely be some benefits to doing that. But if you’re doing a true no-contact, you’re going to want to disconnect from this person on social media and block them. This way, you’re not going to see messages that might trigger you into responding—to taking the bait and engaging in these arguments.
Another thing you can expect after going no-contact with a narcissist—if it was a narcissistic ex—is that they will post photos with the new supply very, very quickly after you’ve gone no-contact.
As soon as they realize they cannot get to you anymore, the narcissist is moving on to plan B. That is to prove that you meant nothing to them—to prove they never needed you in the first place. Their life is so much better without you in it.
And in doing this, yes, they want to prove it to themselves. They want to prove it to everyone in the world. But most of all, they want to prove it to you.
So if you’ve disconnected and you’ve blocked them, they’re just going to hope that either someone tells you about the things they’re posting—or that you eventually stalk their social profiles and see it. And I know a lot of you struggle with this after going no-contact, but stand strong. It is a trap.
Like so many other things on this list, it is a trap. Here’s what happens: this is how people end up falling into the trap. The narcissist will end up posting things that either you did with them in the past—your favorite memories—or things they’ll do with someone else. They’ll post things that you wanted to do. Things they promised you.
I say this often, but it’s so common that it deserves repeating: the narcissist is very likely to get engaged or married immediately after you shut that door. So that’s the kind of thing you can expect to see on social media as an engagement or a wedding.
And if you’re dealing with this right now, again, I want to remind you: step back and take an objective look. Take your part of the story out of it and look at what’s going on there.
Now imagine you were engaged to someone and you caught them doing this. You found out that this is exactly what they were doing. You’d probably walk away instantly, because that’s a whole mess you’re not going to want any part of.
So if you’re in this place right now, understand that even though it seems picture perfect—and it starts to get you to doubt yourself—it starts to get you to question whether you are the problem, and whether they can just ride off into the sunset like this.
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