A narcissist survives and thrives on supply. We know by now that supply can be positive or negative.
They need it. It could be your positive attention, your admiration, and adulation. Or it could be your anger, your sadness, your resentment—anything they can latch onto. When they get an emotional reaction from you, they feel in control.
And when they feel in control, they feel better about themselves. It’s a parasitic way of living: they depend on you, but you’re often the one doing the emotional labor.
So when you don’t give them any reaction—when you don’t give them any emotional fuel—and you become as boring as a “grey rock,” it shocks them to their core.
Some of them react. They try to push harder to get something from you. Others leave you alone, because it becomes boring.
There’s no excitement. No emotional intensity. No chaos. No “high” they can get from abusing you.
So the more boring you are, the more they’re repelled—or triggered—because they can’t stand being ignored that way. It’s a form of powerlessness they feel deeply, and it’s triggered by your unemotional responses.
Number six: When you start living your best life and thriving without them
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