Narcissists are cheaters—big time. But they hide it so well that it becomes almost impossible for you to know they’re doing something behind your back.
They leave signs, but not so obviously that you can easily tell something is going on. Whatever the proof is, they conceal it, hide it, and twist it so that you end up believing you’re the crazy one.
You start making things up, and the worst part is that they accuse you of cheating on them.
So what are the signs you should look for to truly know that a narcissist is cheating on you?
Let’s learn about these signs in this episode.
1) They pretend to hate cheating
Number one, early in their relationship, they express how much they hate and dislike cheating and lying—hinting that they are, quite precisely, the opposite of what they claim to be.
They talk a lot about how much they hate cheaters. They also talk about how their exes cheated on them and how much it hurt them.
This creates a perception that they’re the victim and you’re the savior—creating an obligation. Then they keep bringing it up until you start thinking, “No, this person is very loyal. They would never do something like that.”
They’re brainwashing you and manipulating you—preparing you for the cheating they plan to do later. They want you to believe that this person can never take that route. They can never travel that path because that’s “not what’s in their values.” That’s the opposite of what’s really happening—it’s a breach of their integrity.
They would never, ever “commit that sin.”
But the truth is that they prepare you for it. They make you think otherwise—so that when you later find evidence, they can confidently deny it because the premise has already been set:
“I’m not a cheater. I hate cheaters, so I cannot be one.”
Then what’s the conclusion?
You’re making things up. It’s all in your head, or you’re cheating on them now and projecting everything onto them to escape your own actions.
2) They frequently cancel plans and disappear
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