In elderly narcissists, we see a lifetime of destructive, antagonistic behavior that ultimately can become self-destructive. Their behavior over the years has pushed many people away, leading to isolation and loneliness. They may exhibit arrogance but have diminished confidence as they become frail and lose autonomy, requiring support from others. However, their behavior often alienates them, sometimes resulting in a narcissistic collapse—the point at which they realize they are alone and have nothing left of value.
Even with substantial wealth, they may find there’s no one left to exploit, leading to desperation. At this point, they may become more open to being exploited or abused by others.
To answer the last question about what happens to those around the narcissist as they age, it’s common for others to feel conflicted and confused. They recall the abuse they endured and how miserable the narcissist made them feel, leading to anger. Yet they may also feel guilt for wasting their patience on the narcissist’s constant criticism and demands. Paradoxically, they might feel pity for them, even if there hasn’t been contact for years. The pain may still linger, prompting some to consider reconnecting, especially if the narcissist is critically ill, hoping for a change in behavior.
Research indicates that narcissists can improve as they age; a 1992 study found that levels of narcissism tend to decrease over time, and more recent studies suggest they become less narcissistic with age. Ultimately, it may depend on the individual,
Some may come to terms with their past behaviors upon finding they have no one left to mislead or exploit, acknowledging their dreadful actions and feeling regret as loneliness takes hold.
Just perhaps, they might open themselves up to a semblance of humility. This concludes my outline of aging narcissists.
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