At times, you react
At other times, you return to your work after making a straightforward and convincing excuse, such as “I’m sorry, I can’t come because I’m working on a deadline” or “I’m sorry, I can’t come because I’m out of the city.”
Reaching your objectives and adhering to your plan are important because they help you become stronger and more independent. You don’t adjust your priorities to fit their made-up crises.
Your unreliability as a slave is evident from your lack of availability around-the-clock. You become an annoying and worthless source of supply as a result.
- You Give Up Being Their Emotional Housekeeper
The most important change is this one. Emotional control is outsourced by narcissists. They want you to calm them down because they are furious. They pretend to be the victim and want your approval. They want you to fill them because they feel empty.
You have to quit this soul-crushing, unpaid job.
Narcissist: “It’s unbelievable that you’re treating me like this! You’re leaving me behind!
Old You: (engages, defends, calms) “No, that’s not what’s happening, I’m just trying to…”
“I’m sorry you feel that way,” said the new you. (Silence, pause, and end of conversation.)
You don’t provide emotional absorption. You don’t take in their anger or make them feel better. You watch their emotional state with detached, clinical interest and no personal involvement, much like a scientist watching a microbe twitch under a microscope.
- The Battlefield Shifts to Written Communication
A narcissist thrives in face-to-face interactions. This is where they can overwhelm you with tone, body language, and immediate pressure. They can maximise the impact of interrupting, escalating, and pressing your emotional buttons.
You deprive them of that.
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