When someone goes through abuse, they might develop this repetitive habit. It’s like a heavy security blanket for them. It’s not just about ensuring the door is closed—it’s about feeling safe. Psychologists say this behavior often stems from the trauma of feeling invaded. This habit might give you a sense of reassurance after feeling entirely powerless.
When someone has been through mental abuse, they might find deep comfort in doing things alone. It’s your way of taking back control and finding peace in your own company. After being in a relationship with a controlling person, you crave that alone time.
Experts think this behavior helps victims rediscover their preferences and autonomy. It’s like hitting the reset button on your freedom.
So, how do you rewire your nervous system? As someone who has experienced mental abuse, you might be surprised by how many other habits are influenced by your trauma. It can be difficult to admit that you might have a problem, especially when it involves something as personal as your bodily reactions.
Remember: if you’re fresh out of a toxic environment and experiencing anxiety at a new level, it will probably improve over time. Just try not to become dependent on your coping mechanisms.
But if you are out of the abuse and still feel stuck in survival mode, maybe consider some physical methods to help your nervous system slow down. When a habit becomes chronic, it’s often because your body is stuck in a fight-or-flight state. But you can actually signal to your brain that you are finally safe.
Here are three science-based physical techniques you can use right now.
First, try the physiological sigh. When you start hyperventilating or feeling panicked, your carbon dioxide levels spike. To fix this, take two quick deep inhales through your nose, followed by one long extended exhale through your mouth. Neuroscientists have proven this is the fastest way to calm down in real time. That double inhale pops open the tiny air sacs in your lungs, and the long exhale releases all that excess carbon dioxide. It instantly lowers your heart rate and forces your nervous system to relax.
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