To blend empathy and assertiveness, use the reflect and assert technique in conversations where manipulation is a possibility. Listen carefully to what’s being said, but maintain your assertive stance with a simple script. You can say, “I understand where you’re coming from” or “I appreciate you sharing your thoughts.” This acknowledgment shows empathy without agreement.
Next, state your own perspective clearly and concisely, such as, “Here’s where I’m coming from.” Observe their response: a narcissist might show frustration or try harder to persuade you, seeing your firm stance as a challenge to their control. In contrast, an empathetic person is likely to respond with understanding or interest in your perspective.
Mastering this technique is essential, especially for those with high empathy. To really protect yourself, it’s best to learn what’s beneath the surface of their manipulations.
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